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Aging Father
My father is starting to drive my mother insane.
He's nearing retirement, not too old when it comes down to it. But these things keep happening and my mom is starting to freak out about it all. Trying to be there for her, but I'd love some advice.
As you read this, keep in mind what we're used to with my father. He is somewhat of an introvert, but typically kind and easy-going. Soft-spoken. Bit of a work-aholic. Former mechanic and car-lover.
Some examples of changes:
Driving skills are definitely less than they used to be. Swerves periodically, but worse than that last night he stopped at a green light on a busy road. There was a red light for the turn lane. He wasn't turning.
Grandkids come over and make a little noise for a couple of hours. He gets incredibly flustered and yells at the top of his lungs at my mom every time he wants to say anything. Ignores the kids. Does not interact.
Sunday he left for a business trip. And forgot his luggage. Mom tried to rush it to him before his plane left, she couldn't make it due to traffic. He yelled at her for distracting him and making him forget it, no thank you for trying to get it to him.
He changed jobs, currently self-employed. He does some business consulting, but doesn't schedule much work. He is bringing in about $250/month (as compared with $100 grand/year before.)
Advice, Experiences, or support groups that you know of to help my mom and I cope, etc. would be much appreciated!
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