Sage

Let's review the facts as I see them (Ladies, perhaps you can also agree)

1- Men like women
2- your boyfriend is a man, therefore he likes women (note the plural)
3- your boyfriend gets to be jiggy with you, but has this woman that he's wanted to be with for SIX YEARS (that's a long time to be blue-balling for someone) that he gets to see frequently, and is unsupervised by you while doing so
4- this woman, who claims to be his friend, won't talk to you & won't make an effort to get to know you (as has been said, any friend of his should be a friend of yours, at least in a civil manner)
5- he seems decidedly passive to the whole thing

No, you're not overreacting, you're right to trust your gut and think something is going on. There is something going on- your boyfriend wants to bang another woman, and not only that, is going to see this other woman while you're not around. It sounds like she wants to bang your boyfriend too.

IT'S NEVER GOOD WHEN YOUR BOYFRIEND WANTS TO SLEEP WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!

Sit down and talk to your boyfriend. You've already broken up once- there must of been a good reason for it. Move on, find a guy that doesn't have any baggage (especialy not the kind with breasts), and be happy. Let your boyfriend find out "what if" on his own, because it sounds like he's on his way to finding out "what if" with you in tow. and that's BAD.

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