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iblade · 11-14-2005, 05:03 PM

Wow thanks for the input. Unfortunately for me, it's against me.

Now let's clear up some points. First of all, I did not force her to anything.

Two weeks ago, we go on a weekend to 温泉 (onsen, japanese hot springs)together. We rent a car, everything is fine. Insider note, that I didn't know at the time and she told me recently: it's on that week end, when I mentioned my return to France, that she realized she loved me. From that point, she's been thinking about the break up.

Saturday, one week ago: we have one of our greatest dates ever. I slept at her place friday night, and we spent the day together. It was really nice.

Sunday night: she sends me a text saying: Let's be friends for the remaining time. I say WTF?

Monday night: I go to her place to talk. She explains longly her point of view. I think to myself: "Break ups are hard. But think about it. It's moderately hard for you now. But if it was later, it'd be more painful for her when you leave." I think, "Okay, take it on you and remain good friends". Before leaving, I tell her: "I will never forget you." She is my first after all.

Tuesday to thursday: I meet her in the morning (we live close by). I'm smiling, trying to be "A good friend" and all.

Thursday night: She texts me asking me if I want to talk about it, and come to her place, cause she doesn't feel good telling only her version of the story. So I go there, tell her how I feel, that from me it's not true passion, but that I love her very nuch, and that I want to spend the remaining time making her happy and being with her as a couple. I explained what I said above, my feelings, and she said that she did not feel "True love" towards me either, and said she also wanted to do so.

I was completely honest. And I did not force her. I don't see what I am doing wrong. Of course we have no future together. How about enjoying the time remaining? She said I gave her some of the happiest times of her life. I feel the same too. I just don't want to think: damn, we had one more month, it could have been so good.

11-14-2005, 05:03 PM	#12 (permalink)
iblade Crazy Location: Kyoto	Wow thanks for the input. Unfortunately for me, it's against me. Now let's clear up some points. First of all, I did not force her to anything. Two weeks ago, we go on a weekend to 温泉 (onsen, japanese hot springs)together. We rent a car, everything is fine. Insider note, that I didn't know at the time and she told me recently: it's on that week end, when I mentioned my return to France, that she realized she loved me. From that point, she's been thinking about the break up. Saturday, one week ago: we have one of our greatest dates ever. I slept at her place friday night, and we spent the day together. It was really nice. Sunday night: she sends me a text saying: Let's be friends for the remaining time. I say WTF? Monday night: I go to her place to talk. She explains longly her point of view. I think to myself: "Break ups are hard. But think about it. It's moderately hard for you now. But if it was later, it'd be more painful for her when you leave." I think, "Okay, take it on you and remain good friends". Before leaving, I tell her: "I will never forget you." She is my first after all. Tuesday to thursday: I meet her in the morning (we live close by). I'm smiling, trying to be "A good friend" and all. Thursday night: She texts me asking me if I want to talk about it, and come to her place, cause she doesn't feel good telling only her version of the story. So I go there, tell her how I feel, that from me it's not true passion, but that I love her very nuch, and that I want to spend the remaining time making her happy and being with her as a couple. I explained what I said above, my feelings, and she said that she did not feel "True love" towards me either, and said she also wanted to do so. I was completely honest. And I did not force her. I don't see what I am doing wrong. Of course we have no future together. How about enjoying the time remaining? She said I gave her some of the happiest times of her life. I feel the same too. I just don't want to think: damn, we had one more month, it could have been so good. Last edited by iblade; 11-14-2005 at 05:11 PM..