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Could you be my doppelgänger? I have had the exact same experience except that I will be graduating in December as a CS major. Naturally, I've thought about the situation (too much) and I've come to some conclusions.
First, the lack of balance was entirely my doing but it wasn't without the benefit of having learned something. And I emphasize "learning something" over the oft-recited "learning how to think," because I think the latter is cemented well before college. I don't recommend rationalizing the strength of your academic experience, though, as it will keep you headed down the same path.
The social aspect that I didn't experience and the reasons for it are more complex. I, too, am shy and I don't engage people that often, or very well. The few acquaintances I've made in college are enough to prove that. My lack of social initiative centers around the self-fulfilling prophecy that I'm not capable of cultivating this skill set. People can have dispositions that change very little over life, but if you don't make at least make an attempt to improve socially, you don't have the right to declare yourself a social failure outright. I don't know your situation, but for me, this mindset is reinforced because of depression. If it is the case, you may want to look into therapy.
Your effort to experience the other side of college during your final semester is with good intentions, but it's likely to be disappointing if you think it's going to lead to any immediate changes. I know this feeling of desperation (which honestly seems to be driven by a desire for sex), and it can be frustrating. Finding balance will be a slow process that is going to continue long after college. The pervasive thought of "When am I finally going to get a girlfriend (or friends)?" only adds to the anxiety. My final advice (which I can't seem to follow myself) is to not lose focus of what you have done well, all the while forcing yourself to get out there at meet people. Sacrifice is inherently part of this but something has to give.
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