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Originally Posted by Mantus
Well you certainly sound like an introvert but that doesnt mean you should be a loner. It sounds like you are trying to find a purpose for socializing.
If so, please remember that no matter how good your grades are and how qualified you may be, if some one makes friends with the boss they will get your job! Social skills are KEY not just to success but to a happy life because, face it, we measure ourselves based on other people's opinions. It's very hard to find out who you trully are without assistance from others. Also, social skills grow or shrink exponentially. Don't fool yourself by thinking "oh when I get out of college I'll become social". It simply doesn't work that way. You have allot to catch up on. I sugest you start now, but pace yourself. Don't expect to go to a party and have fun. It takes social skills to have fun at events, otherwise you end up sitting in a corner bored and frusturated.
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Mantus speaks the truth.
Keep in mind that socializing is a skill, and not one you want to neglect until it becomes very important to you. 'Cause then you'll be all rusty, and frustrated. Seek balance, and start now. Success in life is not measured by your grades, and good grades do not mean you'll get what you want. They are a very dry skeleton to hang a life on.
OK, sounds like I'm arguing against having good grades be a goal, that's not it. But I've been in your shoes, and in the end it was my attitude and abilities (yes, honed by years of hard work and focus) that got me where I am today, not my GPA.
Good luck.