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A thing that works really well is to give really strong positive reactions to the things you like. If he loves you (I'm assuming he does) he will enjoy seeing that. Give him lots of praise both verbal and nonverbal (smile, moan, send him a sexy email the next day telling him how much you loved x). Men will respond to that.
Conversely, men don't respond well (if at all) to any kind of subtle or nonverbal negative reactions. Women will try lots of things to try to express that they don't like something, from sulking to throwing things, but in my experience, NONE of them work. I don't mean this sexually, I mean in any part of a relationship. Nothing works but actual words. So if you're trying to tell him you're unhappy with the lackluster way he responds to your requests, you can't just look sort of hurt and hope he'll get the hint (not saying you do this, but every women I've met has tried to signal to her man in this way at least once, including myself). In its most extreme form you may need to use written communication, which works even better.
Hope that helps. Your comment about him saying "I guess" to ALL your questions, not just the sexual onces, is a huge red flag to me--this is a bigger issue than just in the bedroom. Try to solve it by sharing more activities together, by which I mean, make a castle at the beach or embark on a house improvement project. Working together can help you feel closer and it can also make quiet men feel more comfortable talking to you because they have a specific thing to talk about.
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