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I used to be very shy about looking people in the eyes. I then read a bit about it and also later discovered what katie_ann1031 said, that most people then look away if you keep at it long enough. It doesn't even take that long. Seconds.
I started by doing it with people I was confortable with, like friends or my parents. And then I just moved on to other people. It really isn't that hard in the end. I now do it all the time unconsciously, I don't even think about anything in particular at the time, it has just become natural. Also, you'll find that people appreciate that you do that when they are talking to you, because it makes them feel you are paying a lot of attention to what they have to say. Now when people look away I unconsciously try to catch their gaze again because I prefer it to looking away when I am communicating with them.
Maybe I'm the intimidating one now!
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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