dualman7

Imagine you're walking down the street...you're a 23 year old single male..and a beautiful girl is walking towards you looking right at you...and your reaction is to act like you're looking back at her, but in reality you're looking through her because you are unable to look in her eyes.

Well folks. now subsititue the girl for a 90 year old lady, or a 10 year old child, and you still have the same exact reaction (inability to look people into their eyes). That person is me. I've always thought that one day I'll just stop being conscious of my eyes and look wherever and at whomever I want, unfortunately that hasn't happened and I'm concerned.

I try to stay in good shape. I play sports I maintain a good diet. Yet I am like a robot unable to make eye contact. I was working out today on the treadmill, and had a beautiful young lady right next to me. Eventually her friend came over to her, and stood right infront of me for about 20 mins. As she spoke to her friend, she would turn to me and smile...play with her hair and etc...and not once could i look her in the eyes. I try to force myself, but the feeling is so awkward that I can't go through with it. I am thinking this is all somehow tied together to my subconscious view of my self or my looks, and confidence or lack there of, in my self. That doesn't make sense tho because I feel pretty good about myself most of the time. I have my down moments but we all do. Everytime I avoid making eye contact, I feel worse about myself. I can see people saying "just force yourself to look people in the eyes" I wish i could explain how hard that is for me.

The only time i don't feel handcuffed when trying to make eye contact, is when my testosterone is high when playing sports. Other then that I'm a shyest kid in the world. Anyway to shake this, or am i stuck like this for life?