Baby steps sportswidow. Don't overwhelm him or yourself. Start with the little things - how about something as basic as kissing. Don't get serious. Joke about it. Make a game of it if you have to. People have a tendancy to turn these discusions into job interview...and that sucks. Be happy with little gains, then back off. Remember you have 14 years worth of bridges to build, that's going to take a while. Whatever you do, DONT GET ANGRY or it all over. Also, there is no magic word or phrase to make him or yourself open up. It simply takes time. Best of luck and remember, for every question you ask him, ask yourself the same thing. Cheers
