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I can't recall where I saw it, but I ran across a quiz that supposedly two partners were to take to gauge one another's intersts in different sexually related subjects. The questions ran from simple cuddling to extreme bondage. However before I put too much into one of those online quizes, I would check out its validity given the importance of this subject.
Also, don't feel like there is anything wrong with your husband being reluctant to discuss things of this nature even after 14 years. This can be difficult for many men as well as women despite the level of trust and understanding that the couple may have. More than likely your husband is reluctant to discuss this more from outside sources (our society for example) than his trust or interest in you.
Something I think you should also consider is fantasies and if they should be acted on or kept a fantasy. There are many instances where couples have learned that some things should be best left to the imagination. Not that fantasies shouldn't be explored, just be certain that you know what you are getting into. This will come from good communication, which you are obviously trying to work toward.
One last thing... I have three kittens that live in my garage and they will not allow me to pick them up. However if I put food out for them and wait a bit, I can pick them up while they are eating and they don't seem to mind but they don't take to being held too long. What I'm saying is, find the right time to talk to your husband and don't try to cover too much at one time. Good luck!
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