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pan6467 · 11-06-2005, 08:30 AM

Women need to tell us what they like. We men are not mind readers. I am a partner that loves to please but I cannot please the lady if I have no idea what she likes and the last thing I want to do is start trying something that will turn her off. Once she tells me what she likes, then I have some ideas and can change routines and do different tasks each time so the sex is never the same.

Making love is about sharing and opening yourself up, if you can't trust your partner to tell them what you like or want then how can you expect them to know. Sometimes it just happens non verbally in the process. Like if in the middle of a session a woman slaps my asss and I slap hers and she smiles or something good happens then I know she likes that, if I'm making the frozen grape do the orgasmic dance and she moans and pushes my face down deeper I know she likes that.

Now if I pull out a blindfold or a tie and start to tie her up and she kind of flinches and the passion disappears, I made a mistake, yet some women like that and how would I ever know until she says or does something to let me know.

Your husband maybe the same way. He maybe wanting to try new things but is scared to because for 14 years (?) it's been the same and if he tries something new he may be scared you'll freak out wondering where he learned that stuff.

It has been my experience though that when the sex seems to get boring or routine, there are deeper issues in the relationship that aren't being addressed. Cause when the relationship is good, the sex is always good.

Relationships are all about communication and if you cannot communicate what you like in bed, because of fear or embarassment, how can you communicate in other parts of the relationship openly and honestly? Making love is the most intimate thing 2 people can do and the trust and respect have to be there for it to be enjoyable.

11-06-2005, 08:30 AM	#9 (permalink)
pan6467 Lennonite Priest Location: Mansfield, Ohio USA	Women need to tell us what they like. We men are not mind readers. I am a partner that loves to please but I cannot please the lady if I have no idea what she likes and the last thing I want to do is start trying something that will turn her off. Once she tells me what she likes, then I have some ideas and can change routines and do different tasks each time so the sex is never the same. Making love is about sharing and opening yourself up, if you can't trust your partner to tell them what you like or want then how can you expect them to know. Sometimes it just happens non verbally in the process. Like if in the middle of a session a woman slaps my asss and I slap hers and she smiles or something good happens then I know she likes that, if I'm making the frozen grape do the orgasmic dance and she moans and pushes my face down deeper I know she likes that. Now if I pull out a blindfold or a tie and start to tie her up and she kind of flinches and the passion disappears, I made a mistake, yet some women like that and how would I ever know until she says or does something to let me know. Your husband maybe the same way. He maybe wanting to try new things but is scared to because for 14 years (?) it's been the same and if he tries something new he may be scared you'll freak out wondering where he learned that stuff. It has been my experience though that when the sex seems to get boring or routine, there are deeper issues in the relationship that aren't being addressed. Cause when the relationship is good, the sex is always good. Relationships are all about communication and if you cannot communicate what you like in bed, because of fear or embarassment, how can you communicate in other parts of the relationship openly and honestly? Making love is the most intimate thing 2 people can do and the trust and respect have to be there for it to be enjoyable. __________________ I just love people who use the excuse "I use/do this because I LOVE the feeling/joy/happiness it brings me" and expect you to be ok with that as you watch them destroy their life blindly following. My response is, "I like to put forks in an eletrical socket, just LOVE that feeling, can't ever get enough of it, so will you let me put this copper fork in that electric socket?" Last edited by pan6467; 11-06-2005 at 08:42 AM..