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I really do not understand this fascination and overzealousness the public (or rather perhaps just the media) has with WTF adult men and women do behind their bedroom doors or in the privacy of their living quarters.

I do not personally give a damn what anyone does in that privacy, it is NOT my job to judge anyone's moral life. Nor is it anyone's to judge mine. If you feel the need to GO FUCK YOURSELF..... sorry but it's bullshit to have people say, "She's a lesbian.... it's wrong I tell you, wrong."

Hey Zeus Freaking Crisps, if 2 people fall in love and are happy with each other that is better than a hell of a lot of marriages I know of (and according to divorce rates about 50% of them, if I recall the last stat rightly). People spend lifetimes trying to find the right person, and you are going to tell them if they choose someone of the same sex that makes them happy and truly in love with each other, that there is something wrong with them? STFU you prejudiced asswipe and judge yourself. Maybe they are in a happier relationship than you, ever think about that? Maybe you're prejudiced because they found that true love, happiness and acceptance in a relationship you haven't.

As for this woman being a "role model". It's up to the parents to teach their children values, not some public figure and if you have to rely on public figures to teach your children anything.... then maybe you should figure out why YOU CAN'T.

When I was a kid, I looked up to my parents and when I was a teen I looked up to people like James Dean (bisexual, drug addict, alcoholic), F. Scott Fitzgerald (alcoholic, had a crazy wife and was rumored to have had some bisexual flings, one with Ernest Hemingway, for example), Humphrey Bogart (married I believe 4 times, alcoholic), Jerry Lewis (control freak, drug addict), John Lennon (drug addict), and so on.

Now, I never really got into drugs, was a weekend alcoholic (as were most of my friends in high school) and I admired whom I admired for their professional lives, I did not give a damn about their personal life, in most aspects, but I did learn from them and in some ways their lives helped me make better choices for me.

Such as Lennon's philosophical ideologies.... they made me more accepting of others and IMHO a better person because of what he taught (even though privately he may not have always lived by them)... news for ya, neither do I, but I try to the best of my ability to and I believe he did also.

James Dean taught me I could be myself and still be cool, because coolness comes from within and believing in yourself.

But both of those examples were driven into me from my parents and grandparents first and foremost. Those "idols" I had just reaffirmed what my parents taught me. And both of those examples, my respect and admiration and what they taught me came from their professional works not their personal lives.

My friends influenced me far far more than any "idol" or "role model" I may have had. But in the end I did whatever I did because of how my parents taught me and what I saw my parents do and how they reacted (btw, my father was a problemed gambler and my mother an alcoholic, as were both my grandfathers so my addictive behavior and compulsive gambling is related more to my family than to my love for Pete Rose). I didn't need someone to tell me how to live my life, I figured out what worked for me and I went about living the best life I could.

As for a woman playing a "man's sport". LOL...... basketball is a good woman's sport, as is golf, tennis, swimming, as Danica Patrick is showing auto racing, any sport a man can do a woman can and if she likes it more power to her.

Hell, there are a lot of women far more athletic than I am, so what the fuck does that make me more feminine than the woman playing basketball or tennis? I feel sad for you if you believe it does. What happens if your male child sucks at sports???? Or if your female child is great at them???? Are you going to question their sexuality??????

What happens if your child finds happiness and true love with someone of the same sex?

Are you going to blame that professional athlete or your spouse, or even yourself?

Are you going to disown them (thereby showing them parents put conditions, limitations and expectations on loving their children instead of unconditional love)?

There are so many problems in this world that truly need focused on and some people choose to make the most private, intimate part of a person's life more important than those. How truly fucking sad.

And by the way so someone doesn't attack me on this....... I feel if a "star" or someone in the public wants to make an issue of their sex life then depending on how they do it, I'm cool with it and I applaud them.

If you have people like Martina Navratilova, or George Micheal, or Elton John come out and say they found happiness and true love with someone of the same sex, that may help someone find acceptance within themselves (sometimes it takes someone famous to do that for some people).

However, if you have someone say picturing themselves being with someone of the opposite sex makes them sick and that person starts belittling and putting down heterosexuality, then they are just as prejudiced and just as bad as those who comment hateful, cruel things about homosexuality.

My parents always told me, no matter what I did, no matter what choices I made, no matter who I loved or what made me happy, so long as I hurt noone else and I was truly happy and could live with myself they would always love and accept me....... and they do and that has made my life and my decisions in life far easier than anything any "role model" would ever teach me.

In the end we are all just freaks looking for happiness and companionship in life. How and where we find it is noone elses fucking business, as long as it is between consenting adults and hurts noone else. (I feel sorry that I have to add that, but knowing certain people in this community, they'll be more than happy to turn that life philosophy of mine into all of a sudden I'm oking beastiality, child molestation, rape and so on.)

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I just love people who use the excuse "I use/do this because I LOVE the feeling/joy/happiness it brings me" and expect you to be ok with that as you watch them destroy their life blindly following. My response is, "I like to put forks in an eletrical socket, just LOVE that feeling, can't ever get enough of it, so will you let me put this copper fork in that electric socket?"