blizzak

I have a question, a question which has been plaguing me for perhaps a couple of years now. It all dates back to a situation which happened to me in first year university. Me and two friends became involved as a friend with a girl which we met through all the first year fun(she was in second year at the time). A sort of mock contest arose in which we all were wondering which one of us would bang her first.

Of course, all three of us had different feelings and different kinds of relationships with her at the end of first year, and it turned out that she and my friend seemed to fall madly in love. However, I question how they first got together. What basically happened was he raped another girl supposidely because he was missing her and because she left a party we were having with some friends. Afterwards as the shit was hitting the fan, since we were all friends, she was trying to help him remedy the situation. After nights of me not understanding what the hell was going on and the two of them having totally hard times towards eachother(him saying he hated her because she was taking things too slow, not showing affection), they were finally together as boyfriend/girlfriend. But I always questioned his intentions, as I cared for the girl a lot too(in fact, the 4 of us all live together now, after all this).

Ever since he first met her (one time before the start of university), he "wanted" her in one way or another. When my other friend got close to her on several instances and she allowed him to, he got so distraught and resentful. The other thing is she is/was quite the promiscuous one before they were together, and even over the christmas break when things were supposidely developing more between them, she was dealing with another guy. In ways, them being together has been good(she finally stopped staying up all night and having insomnia), and they seem to love eachother a lot, but I can't help but wonder how the future fares. How much do the conditions of getting together have an outcome on the relationship?

I'm not trying to rain on anyone's relationship or say that people got together for all the wrong reasons, I'm just wondering how these initial conditions affect the course of a relationship. For my girlfriend and me, we knew eachother as friends for about a year before I asked her on a date(after we started getting really close), and about 3 weeks later we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend. I cherish her still to this day(1 year at the end of this month). We had our rough times(especially her going through a bad breakup before me and her old boyfriend cheating, etc), but I never got as malignant and vicious as my friend did. I'm wondering what either of them would do if they broke up with eachother now(and what this current situation of living together will/is doing to them...)

So, any thoughts on my question? Perhaps you can all post your stories of how you got together/met, etc. and it'll be more messed up than the one I have divulged, and i'll have some closure that it's impossible to judge relationships at all.

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