skier

I find this kind of stuff annoying. You love your SO. You love your family. Does loving your family take away from the love you have for your SO? no. It's not a limited quality you parcel out to those people close to you.

And it's not conditional either. If your girl/boyfriend falls for another, you still love them just as much. You feel hurt, betrayed, and maybe even afraid but these feelings are there because you care about that person. You can't just flip love off like a light switch because you don't like what your SO did.

bubonico, I just want to say, don't shut this girl out of your life because she "needs to figure things out". There are two results from this situation:

1. She realizes how great things are with you and comes back after a few lousy tries with other people

2. She finds something she feels is better, and you find someone you can love just as much or more than she.

Either way, your life is your own to make. Stay open to the possibility of getting back together with her, but don't ever put your own life on hold because of her.

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