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Some people intensely dislike conflict and all the drama that goes with it .Others have a history of being too impulsive with words that hurt and have been burned enough times to learn that it's prudent to hold your tongue till you've mulled the situation over.Still others are fairly calm, introverted types by nature but find that certain conflicts really put them into an inner turmoil.
I find typical relationship conflicts to be intently drama filled and far too draining to be indulged in on anywhere near a regular basis.I tend to be quiet and prefer my own company over going out/socializing Inevitably, I tend to attract men who seem hypersensitive to this and who interpert this as withdrawal/rejection or some sign that's something's wrong.
I dislike having every word/action/facial expression or voice tone/inflection examined under a magnifying glass and totally hate very small/minor issues being discussed to death, when these things happen it just makes me wish to actively shrink from the person doing it.
You want the cap put back on the toothpaste ? you'd prefer I not use your favorite bath towel, just say it straight out and I'll comply.
"We need to talk" is a phrase that some women cringe from too, save this only for bigger issues, for small things, short, sweet and to the point is far better !
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