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Originally Posted by MoJoPokeyBlue
If we were sitting across from each other, I'd hand you a calendar and a big red marker and tell you to "Pick a day when your leaving, and let's start planning backwards to make this work."
MoJo
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This post hit me like a ton of bricks. You guys know that my marriage is on the rocks, and we are going to counselling. I have tried to make things work, and every time I think things are going to get better, they just don't.
Well, I had a lot of sympathy for the poster in Tilted Sexuality who wasn't getting enough sex (once a month) and was contemplating cheating. I read all of the replies and saw that the responses were all things that I have tried. Then I went back to my original thread where I talked about my situation and looked at the responses. Same kind of thing.
I have been ignoring the situation, in the futile hopes that things will get better, and this is just "A Bump In The Road". I have bent over backwards and kissed my own ass to try to improve, and yet still I feel like I have been punched in the stomach. I am in the corner, on the ropes, use any number of cliches to describe where I am, emotionally and relationship-wise.
Why don't I grab that Big Red Marker and a calendar, and start making plans? Because that scares me so much I feel physically sick. Staying in this situation is not any better. Living with these problems is just as bad.
Here I sit. Looking at a calendar. Which day is okay?
End of the month? No, the moving vans are probably booked.
Middle of November?
Tomorrow? Too soon. Way too soon.
What about bills that we share?
Do I need a lawyer? Yeah, probably. Where do I get one?
What stuff should I take? I look around the house and wonder if I should take different things.
I guess if this was easy, I would have done it long ago.
Here I am, looking at the calendar.
Thoughts?