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Sometimes I feel like I am the only one who feels proposals are given a little too much weight. Honestly, it shouldn't be a surprise that you have reached a point in your relationship that marriage is a considered option for you. The honest communication of feelings, motive, and intent should be voiced at each stage. To me engagement is a formality that precludes the wedding date. I don't need to be asked if I would marry someone - if we don't already know where the other stands, something is wrong, in my opinion. If the guy wants to give me a ring that is part of a wedding band set, I would take it, but it is honestly not a requirement.
I have a personal rule that I will not live with any SO unless we have agreed that living together is the equivalent to our relationship being permanent. To make the decision to move in together would voice to me the mutual consent that we are both ready ... and if we are ready, then get married then. Along that line, I honestly don't see the point in blowing thousands of dollars on something that is as simple as I Do. My timeline could be as simple as move in together in the morning, go to courthouse in the afternoon. If I'm going to blow money, I'd at least like to do it to make for a great honeymoon.
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Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna
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