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Old 10-22-2005, 01:41 PM   #5 (permalink)
nightstuff
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I've met a number of girls online that ive had relationships with in some form or other, longest one being 5 years after we moved in together. So its with those experiences in mind that i share my opinions.

Meeting a girl online really requires a different approach from the traditional way of dating someone. First you talk with her and get to know her, and THEN you exchange pictures, and if it feels right, meet her in the flesh. So by the time you actually have skin contact, you already know lots about each other, and have a good idea whether you are mentally compatible or not.

To me it sounds like she is only following protocol of an experienced online girl. By asking these questions, she's cutting out the bullshit and finding out if you are available, her type, and willing to pursue things. Think about it a sec, what does she have to loose in asking those questions...what do you have to loose in answering them honestly? She is in no way offering committment, but rather, probing around to see who you are and what you are made of. If you both like each other, then maybe it will make it to the next step, whatever that means for you both.

Don't feel like you have to make all these decisions for her. You dont. Enjoy the freedom of the online buffer, and get to know who she is as a person, while at the same time being honest about who you are. What comes next? Ahh, but thats the fun part... maybe she's the one, maybe not.
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