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Yeah. I had something like that happen with a friend once, who basically was going downhill and took advantage of my trust; and didn't give a shit when I called him on it. I didn't blow up at him, but I separated myself. You can blow up, or not, but the best thing is to try to get past feeling angry (don't deny the anger, just don't indulge in it) and back off your friendship. If he wants to get back with you, say no. If he asks why, tell him. If he has a problem with that, it's his. Not yours.
With my friend, I backed off all contact for a couple of years and got over it; just accepted he wasn't a reliable friend. Thing is, he still wanted to be friendly and would call or stop by every couple of years. At that point, I was ready to see him, in part to catch up with what was happening with mutual acquaintances. But I was just friendly, not a friend. He has the sensitivity of a brick, so he probably didn't think what he'd done was especially insulting, nor even realize that I'd distanced myself from him.
Which made it possible for me to have my petty revenge. Eventually he straightened himself out and started going out with decent women. When he'd come by with his new serious girlfriend after a couple years' absence, I'd always start a friendly conversation about the "good old days" and wind up with that incident in which he heartlessly screwed me over. And I swear, both of the two girlfriends did the same thing: turned to him and said, "Gee Dave, you were a real asshole." At which point he'd swear he didn't remember a thing. Then I'd say "Oh right, you were blowing three or four joints a day in those days, weren't you?" Which would get him another dirty look from the girlfriend. One of them married him anyway. And keeps him on a tight leash, which he needs.
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