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Originally Posted by Busstopboy
I have been married for 10 years and during that time I have come to one conclusion.
The WOW factor is a dangerous thing.
When you meet someone new and are attracted to them, you go insane. Called it phermones or hormones or whatever. It's after that wears off that you really know that you are in love with a person.
The question is this: Is Jen his best friend?
If that's the case, then stick it out.
That's all that matters in a long-term relationship -- communication and trust. If you don't have those two things, your doomed.
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I totally agree with the wow factor opinion. It sounds to me like it's more of a physical attraction with this *new girl. He really needs to be honest. We all know honesty is the best policy. I hope the situation with the *new chick doesn't turn out to be a temporary mistake. Sounds like that is what it is though.
Maybe not.
It's too bad there is a child involved. Jen having a son, and letting her son and this friend of yours spend time together, will proabably cause her to be even more upset than she would have been had she not had a kid. I'm sure Jen wants a family and was planning on that, looking forward to that. I just went through a situation similar to this. My guy didn't tell me about the other girl. I found out the hard way (phone bill). I hope you encourage him to be honest. He's got to think about that child. He needs to explain things to Jen so that she may explain things to this child.
A little honesty and some time apart seems like it would to the trick!