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Originally Posted by bubonico
Just FYI about the guy who may or may not have brought about this behavior in her, she was 12 and he was 26 when they first got together. Not that the age really matters, but some of you seemed curious and in my opinion somebody who has a sexual relationship with a 12 year old has got some issues.
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Got some issues?!?! If pedophilia is an "issue", then yes, he has issues! You can't imagine the damage that could have been done by this predator. You should resist minimizing its effect on her.
Clearly, your girl has poor communication skills and you need to encourage her to climb out of her shell. Although not married, I would recommend the two of you reading this book:
<i>The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work : A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman </i>
As you work through the exercises, you will begin to understand each other much better and realize why she is wired the way she is. The only rule is to be completely honest with one another and to concentrate on listening more than talking.
Best of luck.