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Nisses · 10-19-2005, 04:26 AM

I agree with randomness on the part that you might wanna give some feedback when she is acting normally.

But to me this does not sound like a defense-mechanism, more like a lack of maturity in that she can't step up to the parts that might require some effort or aren't the most comfortable.

If you can't talk, then the relationship is seriously impaired, and if you're long-distance, it's even a bigger problem.

If she knows it's a problem, then it's up to her to do something about it. I can't see you talking her into this.

(and I can imagine it must hurt, especially when you hit a bit of a down in your own mood)

One thing I don't understand though... her previous was twice her age, and you talk of ages 12-16... Are you telling me she was dating a 30yo at the age of 14-15??

10-19-2005, 04:26 AM	#3 (permalink)
Nisses Shade Location: Belgium	I agree with randomness on the part that you might wanna give some feedback when she is acting normally. But to me this does not sound like a defense-mechanism, more like a lack of maturity in that she can't step up to the parts that might require some effort or aren't the most comfortable. If you can't talk, then the relationship is seriously impaired, and if you're long-distance, it's even a bigger problem. If she knows it's a problem, then it's up to her to do something about it. I can't see you talking her into this. (and I can imagine it must hurt, especially when you hit a bit of a down in your own mood) One thing I don't understand though... her previous was twice her age, and you talk of ages 12-16... Are you telling me she was dating a 30yo at the age of 14-15?? __________________ Moderation should be moderately moderated.