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I guess it is my fault that some people have replied in a very personal way to me, because I phrased the question upon my personal experience... but for the record, I am not totally unaware, I don't sit there telling my girlfriend I have no idea how she can stand to be with a loser like me or anything like that. I dont have a lot of self confidence, and of course that does come across, but I dont play on it in real life all the time.
In terms of what I think... I can see that being attarcted to a person emotionally can aid physical attraction. But in the purest terms, most people agree that someone being 300 lbs and 5 10 is unattractive and unappealing, most people would find a person like that something unpleasant to look at in an intimate environment - if all other things were neutral.
I guess it varies from people, the degree in which love, or affection, or fraternity, or turning the lights out can blind you to that. But in can't be denied, no one is ever going to look at me like they would look at say Brad Pitt or Chad Michael Murray or whatever.
I mean, if youre 300 lbs... of course someone might want to be with intimate with you cos they care about you or like you and it is an extension of that, but at the end of the day, I cant see that anyone is going to want to be with you just cos they think youre hot. I dont know if it even matters, I guess it was what I was trying to explore here.
And yes of course, I could lose weight, and make my own personal view of myself within this issue a moot point, so to speak.
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"Do not tell lies, and do not do what you hate,
for all things are plain in the sight of Heaven. For nothing
hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain
without being uncovered."
The Gospel of Thomas
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