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Kurant · 10-15-2005, 11:48 PM

Well, this is a story, so if you can stand to read it, any advice would be great.

About 10 years ago I began work for the company I'm presently employeed with. During that time, I made friends with 4 specific people and over that time, they've become my become my best friends, or so I thought.

We did everything together. Fishing, Hunting, general hanging out, going to big sportsman type shows, work, all of it. Until last year.

Last year the one of my friends that are apart of our little group got together the one female in the group. Since then, thing have just continued to decline, until tonight when I'd finally had enough.

The female, has 3 kids, by 2 dads. Been divorced, been a stripper, lived a tough life, and everything in her life is based around what other people think of her, and sex, somtimes, they go hand and hand. She's a very, how shall I put it.. active type of girl if you know what I mean. Since her and her boyfriend of whom she had a kid with 2 years broke up - before her and my best friend got together that's when most of it started. I had a real problem with her ex-boyfriend being at home with her kids, her showing up unannounced to things at my home she was not invited to so she could hang out with him. Basically saying anything she could about what we do as guys (looking at women, porn, fishing, whatever) insisting he would still have his freedom. Naturally, I told her I thought it was a great thing. Boy, was I wrong. He takes care of her, he supplys her money, he watches her kids, somtimes. MOst the time she just pawns them off to her parents.

Since then, the amount of petty shit she has done, and or said is amazing. For example, we were going to go to the sportsman show one night, and it was the weekend she had her kids. So, instead of asking him not to go, she broke down, got pissed off, started crying, and told him that "we" meaning me and my buddy didn't WANT her to go. Well, no one said anything like that, and I even asked if she was going with us. So naturally, he didn't go. When I questioned her about it, her comment was "Well, I've got him, so I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks".

Another time, he plans a small little lan party, and she gets drunk, starts her little "friendly" bullshit, next thign I know, they leave, go home and fuck, and my buddy just doesn't show up to somthing he planned. We drove 210 miles to go fishing, and he didn't show up, when I called, he was sleeping and said the woman kept him up late. I had to sit there the next day and listen to her bitch at people about him doing things that she didn't want him to do. Her exact words were "You guys aren't going to piss on my parade".

She has her "emotional" days she says, where she apologized for being a "bad friend". I kindly told her a couple months ago, that I really didn't care anymore. She has a man, quit using your "emotional days" as an excuse to find someone else to fall on. I aint that person. Go find your boyfriend.

Well, after all that, and her basically alienating herself in the workplace, and among all her friends walking around like people owe her somthing, I moved about 2 months ago, and flew back tonight and we were supposed to have dinner tonight since I only have 3 days in town. She couldn't go, she had her kids. We planned to meet for dinner at a restaurant at 8:00. I called the house at 8:20, and what were they doing. Sleeping. She said she had other plans for him, and they were laying in bed. So, I don't have to tell you what they were doing.

Tonight was the last straw.

I shortly after that, blew up. I had enough to that point. I was sick of the selfishness, and the fact that he, and her know they have commitments, and when she can't do it, or she has other responsibilities, she cries, or throws her pussy around to get him to do what she wants, basically manuplulating him. On the other side, I also told him it wasen't just her. It was him. He's seperated himself from us, yet when it's convinent for him, he wants to do things. When it's not, he allows himself to be put in those situations, commiting to things before he decides if he can really do them. Instead, he just stands people up. This wasen't the first time.

I feel bad, but I feel better. I had enough of the petty shit, and the fact she can't live without people paying attention, and her being the center of attention. She can't do anything by herself, she depends on someone else to do it for her. She just wants everything handed to her. With 3 kids, she still wants to be 21 and go out and drink on the weekends. I had enough, and tonight it all came out.

I'm just curious, was I wrong for voicing my opinion?

10-15-2005, 11:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
Kurant Junkie Location: Don't worry about it.	Troubling, but none the less, needed to be done. Well, this is a story, so if you can stand to read it, any advice would be great. About 10 years ago I began work for the company I'm presently employeed with. During that time, I made friends with 4 specific people and over that time, they've become my become my best friends, or so I thought. We did everything together. Fishing, Hunting, general hanging out, going to big sportsman type shows, work, all of it. Until last year. Last year the one of my friends that are apart of our little group got together the one female in the group. Since then, thing have just continued to decline, until tonight when I'd finally had enough. The female, has 3 kids, by 2 dads. Been divorced, been a stripper, lived a tough life, and everything in her life is based around what other people think of her, and sex, somtimes, they go hand and hand. She's a very, how shall I put it.. active type of girl if you know what I mean. Since her and her boyfriend of whom she had a kid with 2 years broke up - before her and my best friend got together that's when most of it started. I had a real problem with her ex-boyfriend being at home with her kids, her showing up unannounced to things at my home she was not invited to so she could hang out with him. Basically saying anything she could about what we do as guys (looking at women, porn, fishing, whatever) insisting he would still have his freedom. Naturally, I told her I thought it was a great thing. Boy, was I wrong. He takes care of her, he supplys her money, he watches her kids, somtimes. MOst the time she just pawns them off to her parents. Since then, the amount of petty shit she has done, and or said is amazing. For example, we were going to go to the sportsman show one night, and it was the weekend she had her kids. So, instead of asking him not to go, she broke down, got pissed off, started crying, and told him that "we" meaning me and my buddy didn't WANT her to go. Well, no one said anything like that, and I even asked if she was going with us. So naturally, he didn't go. When I questioned her about it, her comment was "Well, I've got him, so I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks". Another time, he plans a small little lan party, and she gets drunk, starts her little "friendly" bullshit, next thign I know, they leave, go home and fuck, and my buddy just doesn't show up to somthing he planned. We drove 210 miles to go fishing, and he didn't show up, when I called, he was sleeping and said the woman kept him up late. I had to sit there the next day and listen to her bitch at people about him doing things that she didn't want him to do. Her exact words were "You guys aren't going to piss on my parade". She has her "emotional" days she says, where she apologized for being a "bad friend". I kindly told her a couple months ago, that I really didn't care anymore. She has a man, quit using your "emotional days" as an excuse to find someone else to fall on. I aint that person. Go find your boyfriend. Well, after all that, and her basically alienating herself in the workplace, and among all her friends walking around like people owe her somthing, I moved about 2 months ago, and flew back tonight and we were supposed to have dinner tonight since I only have 3 days in town. She couldn't go, she had her kids. We planned to meet for dinner at a restaurant at 8:00. I called the house at 8:20, and what were they doing. Sleeping. She said she had other plans for him, and they were laying in bed. So, I don't have to tell you what they were doing. Tonight was the last straw. I shortly after that, blew up. I had enough to that point. I was sick of the selfishness, and the fact that he, and her know they have commitments, and when she can't do it, or she has other responsibilities, she cries, or throws her pussy around to get him to do what she wants, basically manuplulating him. On the other side, I also told him it wasen't just her. It was him. He's seperated himself from us, yet when it's convinent for him, he wants to do things. When it's not, he allows himself to be put in those situations, commiting to things before he decides if he can really do them. Instead, he just stands people up. This wasen't the first time. I feel bad, but I feel better. I had enough of the petty shit, and the fact she can't live without people paying attention, and her being the center of attention. She can't do anything by herself, she depends on someone else to do it for her. She just wants everything handed to her. With 3 kids, she still wants to be 21 and go out and drink on the weekends. I had enough, and tonight it all came out. I'm just curious, was I wrong for voicing my opinion? Last edited by Kurant; 10-15-2005 at 11:52 PM..