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aberkok · 10-15-2005, 07:14 PM

I was just talking to my wife on the phone and she was complaining about our friends and how they are never on time for anything. If they say they're going to call at a certain time, say "when they're done eating dinner," it's always more than an hour late. Whenever we make plans to meet somewhere, they can be relied upon to be at least twenty minutes. Put simply, our friends are never on time for anything. This isn't just one or two of them, but it seems that pretty much all the friends in our tight circle (I'd say about a dozen) are always wasting our time by making us wait.

One strategy I've started to use in meeting situations, is to automaticall add 20 mins. to their quoted time, so for example, if they say "I'll meet you there at 2p.m.," I try to make sure I'm not at the meeting place until 2:20p.m. Sometimes this backfires, though, as they show up late even for that time and I see red. It also can't apply to, say, a movie date.

My questions are:

-Do I have to put up with this for the rest of my life? (There is no question that these are the friends I want to have, it's just that we must waste several days a year just waiting around)

-What clever strategies do you all have for dealing with this sort of stuff?

-I don't want to spoil a fun meeting by reprimanding them once they arrive. Should I be bringing it up first thing when they get there?

10-15-2005, 07:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
aberkok “Wrong is right.” Location: toronto	Friends and Punctuality I was just talking to my wife on the phone and she was complaining about our friends and how they are never on time for anything. If they say they're going to call at a certain time, say "when they're done eating dinner," it's always more than an hour late. Whenever we make plans to meet somewhere, they can be relied upon to be at least twenty minutes. Put simply, our friends are never on time for anything. This isn't just one or two of them, but it seems that pretty much all the friends in our tight circle (I'd say about a dozen) are always wasting our time by making us wait. One strategy I've started to use in meeting situations, is to automaticall add 20 mins. to their quoted time, so for example, if they say "I'll meet you there at 2p.m.," I try to make sure I'm not at the meeting place until 2:20p.m. Sometimes this backfires, though, as they show up late even for that time and I see red. It also can't apply to, say, a movie date. My questions are: -Do I have to put up with this for the rest of my life? (There is no question that these are the friends I want to have, it's just that we must waste several days a year just waiting around) -What clever strategies do you all have for dealing with this sort of stuff? -I don't want to spoil a fun meeting by reprimanding them once they arrive. Should I be bringing it up first thing when they get there? __________________ !check out my new blog! http://arkanamusic.wordpress.com Warden Gentiles: "It? Perfectly innocent. But I can see how, if our roles were reversed, I might have you beaten with a pillowcase full of batteries."