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First of all, thanks for all the thoughtful replies.
I am hearing a lot of suggestions to the effect of 'you may be gay' or that I am not as heterosexual as I think I am. And yes incidentally I don't think ANYONE should compare themselves to Hef. Good point there.
I don't see it as productive to simply say 'are you mad? Gay?' because obviously I did describe that period of my life where things didn't seem very straightforward, and besides I already stated that I felt sure of my sexuality. I should make the point however, that I think a lot of people are prevented from realising unseen sides of their sexuality, or indeed their greater personality, as a result of environmental factors. So as a person who likes to distinguish between what he knows and what he must assume, I keep an open mind.
The point that interest in sexual acts may not arise until the opportunity does, is interesting, if anyone else has experiened that. I am hoping some more people will talk about their experiences. By the way, that reminds that I forgot to mention something which may not be such a big deal, but when I kissed the three (count 'em people, not two but three lovely ladies) I basically felt NOTHING. Except for the third girl, probably because she was the only one I really connected with, and probably because I have this problem where I am not really interested in people unless it is reciprocal. I guess that is part of 'chemistry'. But it really scared me the 3rd and 4th times (the first and second times I was drunk and tripping, respectively), I just was there thinking 'Jesus, I am all over the place, and I am not feeling anything AT ALL, this just feels ridiculous'. And all of a sudden I felt really distant from the girl, like I barely knew her. And that kind of sums up how I feel now, that I will never sort of coinhabit an emotional space with a girl, like just be in the same place as her. I feel that I could never have sex with girl like this.
I am awfully sorry about the long reply, but thanks for reading!
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