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Originally Posted by eMOTIONal20
However, I’ve also been told by my SO that he thinks his excessive masturbation is killing his sex drive, and perhaps he needs to stop so that he would be able to have sex with me more often.
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Okay, so he understands your point and sees, to whatever extent, the same problem you see. So what would he need in order to do that?
It's definitely true that masturbation is quicker, easier, and more certain than sex. Especially when you're in a rut, sexually, it can look like the easiest thing to do. You should go ahead and implement the new things you've been talking about. And be free to experiment while you're there. Some of our best stuff happened by accident--some position between here and there that we paused at for a second and liked a lot...
Communication is the whole deal here. It sounds like you've been communicating some, and that's good. Try to keep the blame out of your communication, hard though that may be. He knows something's off too, and I can hear that he's as committed to shaking things up as you are.