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Originally Posted by Zar
This is causing her to fall even farther behind in her schoolwork, adding to the feelings of helplessness.
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She needs to start talking to the dean of students/her profs/whoever does this at her school to talk about getting extensions or working around these problems.
When i went to college, i had no idea that deadlines could be moved...and nearly put myself in the ground trying to keep up during a bout of severe depression. I tried to not do it all the time, but a little flexibility can make a huge difference. It can be tough asking for help when you know yourself to be capable...but the simple fact is that without taking care of oneself, you're no good to anybody.
i know the trick about words...i've been frustrated when everything people said sounded trite...but i still don't know what wouldn't when it's my turn to be a consoler. I think its key that she knows that you're there for her, and want her to grieve as she needs to do so. It's tempting to manage symptoms...if she's angry to placate her, if she's sad to cheer her up...but it may be that she needs to be in that place right now. It can be scary, but letting people have the space to grieve a trauma like this is important.
best wishes with this...be sure to keep us updated.