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Originally Posted by bubonico
Try not to pigeonhole us males too bad. J/K, but in my relationship I'm often the one who is wishing we'd talk longer. I think it really boils down to me having A LOT more time to devote to the relationship right now. -snip- Another thought I have is perhaps you can try talking about all the things you wanna do to him when you get the chance  |
Thanks, bubonico. I do apologize for pigeonholing guys, but it comes from the sample I've been exposed to... biased it may be, I still have a feeling that chatty guys like you are probably at the far ends of the normal scale (and that's a good thing!).
As for the time difference... well, I am in grad school, so pretty much my work is all day and all night. I don't do anything for more than 3 hours at a time, at most (classes, work, etc).. but I don't usually have longer than 1-2 hours at a time to take a break between those activities. So I am obligated to pack meaningful conversations into smaller time periods. As for ktspktsp, he is working a 40-hour a week, 8-5 job (for the most part), and has activities after work on most days, but is usually home otherwise. I think the fact that he has to wake up at 7am affects our late-night conversations more than anything... not so much how much time we have, but our different allocations of the free time (schedules).
Lastly, oh believe me, we talk about what we want to do to each other ALL THE TIME.
But I can only talk about sex for so long before it gets a little dull (without the physical fulfillment). That's why I like talking about more emotional/philosophical/political issues in long, detailed, intense conversations... we get to know each other so much better through those, and it's just stimulating for our relationship in general. But as I said, it seems that most guys aren't into those kinds of conversations, at a distance.