There is a lot of good advice here. I will throw in my 2 cents and what caught my eye the most was the feeling of helplessness in the op and Abaya's part:
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Originally Posted by Abaya
This depresses me, often. At the age of 26 I'd hoped to shake these things off, but jesus, sometimes I wonder if I should really be in this field at all. I don't function well without structure, and I'm very bad about imposing it on myself... the latter is crucial to success in grad school.
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I am also a procrastinator and a slacker. However, I'm not as bad I used to be and I will tell you what worked for me. I was depressed for many years and went to therapy. One of the reasons I was depressed was because of lack of motivation, which was mostly caused by depression, but not entirely. My therapist told me that there are 2 types of people...those who have motivation and those who don't. I happened to fall in the second group and was beating myself up over it. However, once I accepted that it is ok to be like that and it is part of my personality, it subsided a bit. I think that I was so busy fighting it that it was always there. Once I accepted it, it wasn't a focus and I had a little more motivation. I wish you good luck and don't beat yourself up over it. Obviously, you are not alone.
As for promising not to maturbate and not to drink caffiene, that is bizarre to me. I can see the caffiene thing, health and all, but masturbating?!? That sounds like another topic that more information is needed on.