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Originally Posted by bubonico
I'd say you are definitely not oversensitive. -snip- I think there are two things that are very important in a long distance relationship. The first is making sure that you talk about every day things like what you did and the people you're around and stuff. The 2nd is to replace the lack of physical contact with mushy emails and phone conversations. I know you weren't talking specifically about phone sex, but I do think that's equally important for maintaining a feeling of closeness.
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Thanks, bubonico, for saying that I'm not over-sensitive. It's nice to hear that, since I usually come down hard on myself for that. You have good advice... I think we've mastered talking about surfacy every-day things, but it's the deeper-running stuff that I don't know how to address. It needs to be talked about, and sometimes it can't wait for the weekend. We are working on boundaries/signals for when the conversation needs to end, though. And yeah, I think we could use more mushy stuff...
that came more easily when we were first dating and apart (and when I was incommunicado this summer, in Africa), but I think it would help to consciously do it now, in the distance. Mush is good!
And also thanks to Daoust for your post... I think you're right, most guys are visual... that's why I try to use the webcam at least once a week with my SO, because it helps both of us feel closer (definitely for me).
I guess both of you are guys?... so it's good to hear that perspective, though I'm still waiting for some ladies to respond!
(Maybe should've posted in the Ladies Lounge)