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Man, I am really sorry for the loss, and this is a very tough situation...
Like everyone else has said, just be there for her...
Don't take any lack of attention personally. Time, time, time. Time will be your worst enemy now... as it will likely take a good deal of it for her to begin to heal...
I would not try and "cheer her up" with talk of the engagement and your marriage, unless she brings it up as a positive first. Since the two happened so close together, she may (at least for the time being) associate the two on the same timeline... think of one, reminded of the other.
Unless she asks, I wouldn't feel compelled to volunteer encouraging words like, "at least he's at peace now" or "it was his choice" or "we all have to go some time", things like that... most people do not want to hear it.
If I were in your shoes, the only words out of my mouth for a while would be, "I love you", unless she specifically asked me to talk, or asked questions. I would not volunteer conversation. When people are grieving, in my experience, the worst thing in the world is idle talk. Hold her tightly, be aware she may either be very needy for attention, or completely ignore you for a while... and whichever it is, you have to know it's needed, and not personal... you're the shoulder to cry on, the anchor, the comforting voice, the loving embrace.
Good luck, man.
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