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raeanna74 · 10-06-2005, 01:29 PM

It sounds somewhat like she may have an unrealistic view of what work today can be like. Of the friends I know none of their work situations are ideal. Here's how things are for several families I know:
Over the road truck driver - SAHM and daycare provider - sees Dad about twice a week for a day or two.
Engineer in Ca - mom living in Wis to help her Dad who is ailing
Dad leaves for work late at night - Mom leaves for work early in the morning
Dad works 8-4 - Mom works M-T in Ca, comes home to Wis Fri am, gone Sun afternoon

We've been really lucky to actually settle down early. Hubby has worked the same job for 3 years as have I worked my home business for about that time. BUT until we did it was several years of part time jobs, multiple part time jobs, and moving at least once a year. We did that from '98 until 2001. I'm 31 and he's 27. It takes time. Some reach their comfort zone sooner than others.

Is the issue that between the two of you, you are unable to meet the basic bills? Or is she wanting to travel or something? Are both of you working and what kind of work? Perhaps you could bargain with her, for example: You put in two applications a week and I will do the same for a different better paying job. Some people are simply unable to hold down work and have less motivation than you do. At least you are dragging your butt out of bed each day to go do some sort of work. (Don't mention that to her though since it will likely come across as "Get off my back or I'll quit." - not a good way to get her on your side.)

I have a B.S. degree in Education. I have not attempted to look for work in over 3 years but until then I never had trouble finding at least part time work that I could live with.

10-06-2005, 01:29 PM	#7 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	It sounds somewhat like she may have an unrealistic view of what work today can be like. Of the friends I know none of their work situations are ideal. Here's how things are for several families I know: Over the road truck driver - SAHM and daycare provider - sees Dad about twice a week for a day or two. Engineer in Ca - mom living in Wis to help her Dad who is ailing Dad leaves for work late at night - Mom leaves for work early in the morning Dad works 8-4 - Mom works M-T in Ca, comes home to Wis Fri am, gone Sun afternoon We've been really lucky to actually settle down early. Hubby has worked the same job for 3 years as have I worked my home business for about that time. BUT until we did it was several years of part time jobs, multiple part time jobs, and moving at least once a year. We did that from '98 until 2001. I'm 31 and he's 27. It takes time. Some reach their comfort zone sooner than others. Is the issue that between the two of you, you are unable to meet the basic bills? Or is she wanting to travel or something? Are both of you working and what kind of work? Perhaps you could bargain with her, for example: You put in two applications a week and I will do the same for a different better paying job. Some people are simply unable to hold down work and have less motivation than you do. At least you are dragging your butt out of bed each day to go do some sort of work. (Don't mention that to her though since it will likely come across as "Get off my back or I'll quit." - not a good way to get her on your side.) I have a B.S. degree in Education. I have not attempted to look for work in over 3 years but until then I never had trouble finding at least part time work that I could live with. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.