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Hrandani, thanks for your reply. I have to say, I hope I'm not that much older than you! (I'm a grad student.) And I also have to say, NOTHING is all old hat, no matter how long you've been together, or how many relationships you've been in (or how few). I think writing those hot steamy e-mails are what keeps things going... even 30 years from now. I think that when things like that become old hat, then something's wrong...

But I also thank you for the insight into my bf's perspective. Believe me, I understand the need to do other things, go to sleep early, etc. I support that 100%. I just need that to be communicated in the right way... as I said, "I want to listen to you, and I know this is a big deal for you, but honestly I don't have enough energy to participate right now. I still love you. Let's talk more later." Something like that. Not dropping out of the conversation after several one-word replies. Can someone help me understand why guys do that? Do any women do that, too?

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