This may not be the right forum, but I really want to know (especially from the ladies, or from guys whose SO's are like this) whether anyone else feels like conversation can be as intimate as sex.
For me, being in a long-distance relationship, conversations are pretty much all I have as a form of intimacy. What else is there, other than words, to express your thoughts and feelings when that person is not physically present? I'm not talking about phone sex or whatever. I just mean, talking about the deeper issues of the day, things that have been brooding in the mind that you want to share with your partner, things that you would talk about and go over in depth if you were together in person (and probably talk about while touching each other, laying together in bed, etc)... that kind of intimate conversation.
And if a person doesn't have time to talk about those things, maybe they're tired or whatever, then I can handle it if they say, "You know, I'd like to talk about those things with you, because I know they're bothering you, but right now I'm really tired and I have to go to sleep, do ____, etc." But if they just drop the conversation and say, "I gotta go," then I feel exactly the same as if they had stopped in the middle of sex, pulled out, and walked away from me. I feel pretty rejected at that moment, whether it's intimate conversation or intimate sex.
Does anyone else feel this way, or am I just... oversensitive?
