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abaya · 10-05-2005, 07:01 PM

I think the fact that you are already so willing to do anything, ask anything (on TFP), learn anything to help her... shows how much you are able to take care of her emotionally. Other people have given really good advice, esp. Ratbastid and Medusa, with negative/positive hindsight... the key seems to be empathy. Show her that you FEEL the same things she's feeling, the same grief... and even if you don't feel the same, then get in her shoes and feel it as much as you can. Cry with her, if you can... or just hold her, be there, be "emotionally present" for her while she cries. I dunno what else to say... but I think you've got a good foundation already. Let us know how it goes.

10-05-2005, 07:01 PM	#7 (permalink)
abaya Location: Iceland	I think the fact that you are already so willing to do anything, ask anything (on TFP), learn anything to help her... shows how much you are able to take care of her emotionally. Other people have given really good advice, esp. Ratbastid and Medusa, with negative/positive hindsight... the key seems to be empathy. Show her that you FEEL the same things she's feeling, the same grief... and even if you don't feel the same, then get in her shoes and feel it as much as you can. Cry with her, if you can... or just hold her, be there, be "emotionally present" for her while she cries. I dunno what else to say... but I think you've got a good foundation already. Let us know how it goes. __________________ And think not you can direct the course of Love; for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. --Khalil Gibran Last edited by abaya; 10-05-2005 at 07:04 PM..