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raeanna74 · 10-04-2005, 01:29 PM

So recently I got fixed - my tubes tied. Then articles and news programs began to stick out to me on certain subjects. I don't regret it one bit but I feel like it's a step in a different direction for me and I'm not sure what direction it is.

I've read in a couple places lately about milestones in peoples lives. Most of the major milestones that are listed are things such as, graduation, marriage, having a baby, buying a house, getting a career, menopause, retirement. It has occured to me that I've done all of it, at least except for menopause and retirement. But the menopause, in the sense that it ends fertility, I have already passed.

So what's next?? I got to thinking - the milestones now are my daughters. Her first recital - dance, music, something. Her first boyfriend, her first date, highschool graduation, college graduation if that is her path, HER milestones. But I can't truely live if I'm only living vicariously.

I've never really had a desire to go a lot of places or do a lot of things like mountain climbing or sky diving. I don't have anything like that which I really want to do, at least I don't think so.

I like my work - home child care. I don't have an interest in changing careers and if I had to go find another job I'd probably just go be a secretary or something benign. I couldn't stand working in a public school. It would be like suicide for me. I'm very creative and the kind of atmostphere in a public school would be stifling for me. When I was 12 I knew I wanted to work with kids for my own career goal. It's what I went to college for and where I was always headed.

Right now though I feel like I'm lacking. Missing out on something I should be doing while I'm still young enough to do it. Some things take time to achieve and I don't want to cut myself short.

So - Am I overthinking this? How did you find out what your personal goals would be or what your second carreer would be? I always sortof knew what I wanted and now I don't and it's kindof scary to be hanging loose. Maybe it's what I should be doing - I'm not sure.

Any thoughts, suggestions, or personal experiences like mine? Am I wacked?

10-04-2005, 01:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	Midlife crises? or what do you call this? So recently I got fixed - my tubes tied. Then articles and news programs began to stick out to me on certain subjects. I don't regret it one bit but I feel like it's a step in a different direction for me and I'm not sure what direction it is. I've read in a couple places lately about milestones in peoples lives. Most of the major milestones that are listed are things such as, graduation, marriage, having a baby, buying a house, getting a career, menopause, retirement. It has occured to me that I've done all of it, at least except for menopause and retirement. But the menopause, in the sense that it ends fertility, I have already passed. So what's next?? I got to thinking - the milestones now are my daughters. Her first recital - dance, music, something. Her first boyfriend, her first date, highschool graduation, college graduation if that is her path, HER milestones. But I can't truely live if I'm only living vicariously. I've never really had a desire to go a lot of places or do a lot of things like mountain climbing or sky diving. I don't have anything like that which I really want to do, at least I don't think so. I like my work - home child care. I don't have an interest in changing careers and if I had to go find another job I'd probably just go be a secretary or something benign. I couldn't stand working in a public school. It would be like suicide for me. I'm very creative and the kind of atmostphere in a public school would be stifling for me. When I was 12 I knew I wanted to work with kids for my own career goal. It's what I went to college for and where I was always headed. Right now though I feel like I'm lacking. Missing out on something I should be doing while I'm still young enough to do it. Some things take time to achieve and I don't want to cut myself short. So - Am I overthinking this? How did you find out what your personal goals would be or what your second carreer would be? I always sortof knew what I wanted and now I don't and it's kindof scary to be hanging loose. Maybe it's what I should be doing - I'm not sure. Any thoughts, suggestions, or personal experiences like mine? Am I wacked? __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.