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It's common that people who are close to bereved family members want to say something to make it better, but I submit that doing so is a mistake. It's important that they be allowed to feel however they feel. They'll likely experience feelings and "meta-feelings"--feelings about the feelings they're having. Within the next few days, for instance, it's likely she'll catch herself feeling happy or good about something, or even just forget for a moment that he's gone, and feel horrible about that. It's important for her to know that that's completely normal, and part of the process. Anything they experience is part of the process, however ugly, and it's all totally okay. So if you want to tell them anything, tell them that.
More important, though, is just to be there for them. It's not what you say that makes the difference at a time like this.
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