^^^ It's clear that Rodney has earned street cred in the world of women.
As a woman who processes out loud, I highly recommend that you take note of his advice. Basically, slow down and turn off your need to be rational or declarative when listening to someone talk things out... she wants your empathy, not your analysis. She also wants you to comment on just about every sentence she makes (that doesn't include grunts or "yeahs")... even better than comments are QUESTIONS, because they reflect your level of interest and attention to detail. Good luck, man.
Btw, I think it has little to do with nature vs. nurture, and everything to do with your level of motivation to become an above-average conversationalist. If you REALLY want to learn how to connect with women and anyone else who's keen on attentive conversation, you'll teach yourself how to do it... (the math analogy applies here, nice one Rodney).