I think that "stop looking ,she will find you" advice is a lie . I actually believed that for many, many years and all it did was leave me out of the loop.
I also was advised that good things come to those who wait... another falsehood... waited 25 years now and am only growing too old and unattractive for any girl to consider.
My advice, work hard at it... or better yet, lie. I have resisted trying that, but it's easy to see it works.
![Confused](/tfp/images/smilies/confused.gif)