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Originally Posted by taog
But, as you can tell from this statement of hers, it hit me, because she was basically calling me a social retard, since I am one who engages in activities similar to blogging.
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No she didn't. You go back and re-read that entry of hers and find where it says, "My boyfriend taog is a social retard." Unless it SAYS THAT, it doesn't say that.
A big part of having relationships work is giving your partner the benefit of the doubt in communication. It's hard, because we human beans are wired up to hear things the worst way they could possibly be meant. We LOVE being offended and hurt, it activates the Martyr Region in our reptile-brain limbic system, and satisfies us deeply. High dudgeon looks
good on us. And it
really doesn't work in relationships.
I bet if you re-read what she said and give her the benefit of the doubt, you'll find that she actually wrote something like, "I don't understand this, it seems to me that...". That's called an opinion. It's as valid and right as any other opinion, including yours.