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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
It was an adjustment period but it did happen and our friendships are stronger for it because we KNOW what our friends are willing and capapble of doing instead of just talking like they will. We've seen it demonstrated in various capacities and now we know who really "has our back" because those that said they would. Didn't.
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Cyn, this was a really interesting perspective, and it's one that I share (but didn't realize until you said it). I tend to be the more aggressive one in any friendship/relationship, until I realize that I'm taking all the initiative and then I slack off. Then I start hoping that the other person will take up the baton... some do, some don't.
Those that do, I feel much closer and more trusting of; those that don't, I've learned not to feel guilty about. I also don't put as much effort into keeping up with them. As a result, I feel much less socially drained than I used to.
Sometimes these little tests show you who your true friends really are (it's not a conscious test, but sometimes I just get tired of keeping up both ends of things).