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I can relate.
I actually become mentally and physically paralyzed in most social situations where I want to do something, but the fear of "what's gonna happen if.." takes over my thought process.
Here is just one of many tips to a better experience:
Confide in a friend and have that friend PUSH you into situations.
Example: I was eyeing this girl across from me on the subway one day.. she had the most amazing eyes and lips. I could tell she was looking at me too. Buddah was hanging out with me, and he noticed my attraction to this girl. Luckily, we we got off at the same stop.
So there I was, walking up a hallway behind this girl and Buddah urging me to go up to her and ask her something, like.. where she is from. The thoughts I had running through my head were, "Okay, that's a dumb thing to ask her. Everyone gets asked that stupid question. I'm gonna go up to her and she's just gonna look at me funny. She'll think I'm creepy for checking her out for the last 20 minutes." Well.. Buddah pushed me.
I jogged up to her and said, "Hi." After that, my brain was wiped clean of anything I had planned to say. She took off her headphones and said, "Hello." I tried to force something out... "I..." and.. you know how they say some people are "too dumb to lie"? Well, at that moment, I was too dumb to think of anything, so all that came out was the complete and utter truth. "I... couldn't stop looking at you. What's your name?" She told me her name and she told me I had amazing eyes. I couldn't think of much else to say than, "I'm Andrew and.. uhh.. likewise!"
The rest of the story is fun too, but the point is.. cool, unexpected things happen when you step out there.
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