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Originally Posted by lurkette
Chances are if all of your relationships are like this, there's something you're doing to contribute to the situation - either choosing people as friends who let you take care of them in this way, or just being so pro-active that they have become "trained" to let you do all the work. It might help if you talk to the ones you're most comfortable with and ask them to be honest about why they don't call you, or what you do that invites people to walk all over you.
Good luck!
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having realized that some of our relationships are like this Skogafoss and I had to re-evaluate just what our friendships really are. Since we like to be in control of our situtations we usually are the ones that do alot of legwork for our activities and then inviting other friends. But we did get tired of doing all the planning etc that when we started allowing others to make the plans we had to sit and squirm knowing that we're not the ones in control.
It was an adjustment period but it did happen and our friendships are stronger for it because we KNOW what our friends are willing and capapble of doing instead of just talking like they will. We've seen it demonstrated in various capacities and now we know who really "has our back" because those that said they would. Didn't.
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