Ah so. So it sounds like you have a deep seeded (seated?) issue with inferiority complex, and it's exacerbated in this particular instance because of your relationship with 'lil Debbie. (sorry, couldn't help myself) In a sense, I think you've answered your own question - you feel this way because of the above. As far as how to stop it / deal with it...I think that my opinion would lie rather close to a post by ye olde
bastid himself - you're allowing yourself to get mad because Deb (or some other girl / person) or the people around her aren't behaving the way you want them to / expect them to, instead of accepting the situation for what it is. You can't change the external situation. It may sound trite, but you've got two choices. Accept yourself and the situations for what they are, or change yourself (which will change the nature of the situations.)
So, after typing a bunch of stuff and deleting it - I think you might be doing a version of "the grass is greener" stuff. I think if you truly, deep down wanted to be receiving that kind of attention, you would be. Problem is, you would be sitting there with these guys giving you shoulder rubs thinking "God, what a bunch of bitches. What the fuck is wrong with you little pussies?" I don't think you have the patience to suffer fools lightly. Maybe not, but that's the impression I get. It sounds to me like you just haven't accepted that yet. So I think it comes back to self awareness and acceptance; which I think is funny as all get out. You're one of the more aware people on this board - funny how we always run back into the same stuff, no matter how much we work on it or how far we think we've come.
So, as far as how to get over it....crickey. That's a whole different can of worms - but given your intelligence, I think it's a given that you'll continue to grow inwardly and outwardly, period. My guess is that simple awareness of the problem, and the recognition of it required to post this thread will have been enough to get you going. But of course, that's just my opinion.