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Originally Posted by ohh_shesus
...you've got to look for the positives in yourself and embrace those. Once you have the self-confidence, you'd be surprised how your 'flaws' disappear or become obsolete...
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This is the crux of the matter. We (and I am soooo including myself in this) have to remember that it's not a competition. Stop comparing yourself to others, and you'll likely be a lot happier. There will always be someone younger, with a better body, more talented, more this, more that, or any combination...whatever. Are we gonna waste your life being unhappy because of it? I hope not!
We have to develop self confidence in *Ourselves*. What makes us "Us".
I just got home from a short cruise yesterday, and I was constantly confronted with chicklettes of all ages (but many younger than me) trotting about with their Fabulous Bodies (tm) in various stages of glittery, trendy undress. I on the other hand, was attending several hours of dance workshops each day (had a belly dance cruise party, the only reason I'd be on a cruise) and so was dressed in yoga gear, sweaty, hair unglamorously in a pony tail or bun. And got comparatively little attention. Yeah, didn't feel real fun, lol. But I reminded myself (over and over, LOL) about how if I had the time and inclination, I could out-dress or un-dress, as the case may be, any of them, and I'm certain I am a better dancer than any of them, ha! ;P
I don't know if they were shallow or superficial, that can be particularly irritating. But still.
There are So Many Women in the world who are not conventionally beautiful, and yet command the attention of anyone in any room they enter. It's confidence. Don't focus on what you perceive to be your flaws--that's what others will see. Focus on what makes you spectacular, beautiful, in short, on the positive, and *THAT'S* what others will see, too.
On a side note, I garauntee (sp?) that all those other women, and your Deb, too, have a litany of things they hate about their body too.