Man, my old roommate from boarding school was *exactaly* like that... still is. I love her to death as a person but honest to god, she can be so trite and flightly it bugs the shit out of me.
So, I just distanced myself from her and am hoping one day she'll grow up. I understand the whole reason she acts like this is because of her childhood and problems she had growing up- perhaps Deb is the same way. Any woman who is married and who still acts 18 when it comes to guys is well... acting 18 when it comes to guys.
Look, Lurkette, you might _not_ have D breasts and "perfect" skin and dress "provocatively," but I gaurentee you won't ever hate yourself in the morning for who you are, what you do, and how you act. Deb either does, or will resent herself for acting the way she does- it will eat at her that she can't seem to form a meaningful relationship with anyone as they only care about her looks. You, on the other hand, can and DO form meaningful relationships with people of both genders, and you have a great husband who likes it when you get it on with women.
Take a deep breath and realize that feeling like you are in 8th grade again just doesn't matter -
because you're no longer in 8th grade. Adults realize that there are things to life that matter more than looks and popularity- because looks and popularity are very fickle things, but a person with substance is a person to know!