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TM875 · 09-26-2005, 07:50 PM

Ah - you've fallen into the "yes man" trap.

It's tough, especially when dealing with someone that you want to be in good graces with, to tell them that they're wrong. However, giving up and turning into a throw rug is perhaps one of the worst things that you can do for your career.

In an argument, you might be right or you might be wrong. Stand up for what you believe in. Okay, he might become lewd or disruptive - but don't let yourself fall into step with him. Stay calm, talk with a sense of tact and confidence, and try to resolve the problem. You might lose the argument 100% or the time, but I guarntee that someone in higher posistion than your direct superior will see how you two are interacting.

Those "snobby corportate people" will not fire you for simple believing in your work and attempting to better the company, as long as you have justification for your point.

Again, let me stress, act with immense tact in situations like this, but don't feel the need to back down. Accept that your opinion may be in the minority, and that they will eventually have final say, but don't simply back down because you're scared. Eventually, a bear will win the battle - a sheep will not.

09-26-2005, 07:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
TM875 Addict Location: Amish-land, PA	Ah - you've fallen into the "yes man" trap. It's tough, especially when dealing with someone that you want to be in good graces with, to tell them that they're wrong. However, giving up and turning into a throw rug is perhaps one of the worst things that you can do for your career. In an argument, you might be right or you might be wrong. Stand up for what you believe in. Okay, he might become lewd or disruptive - but don't let yourself fall into step with him. Stay calm, talk with a sense of tact and confidence, and try to resolve the problem. You might lose the argument 100% or the time, but I guarntee that someone in higher posistion than your direct superior will see how you two are interacting. Those "snobby corportate people" will not fire you for simple believing in your work and attempting to better the company, as long as you have justification for your point. Again, let me stress, act with immense tact in situations like this, but don't feel the need to back down. Accept that your opinion may be in the minority, and that they will eventually have final say, but don't simply back down because you're scared. Eventually, a bear will win the battle - a sheep will not. __________________ "I've made only one mistake in my life. But I made it over and over and over. That was saying 'yes' when I meant 'no'. Forgive me."