Originally Posted by pigglet

ScottKuma,

The only thing I think I can even possibly add to the advice already given is to encourage you to reread what the ratbuddhist wrote; he's not attacking you, but I think that path might help you to deal with your emotions in a way that brings you some contentment. It's the same sentiment that trickles down in most of the other advice - I think it one of the best posts I've read here in a while. I would also reiterate that it sounds like y'all could really use some couples counseling; but if this won't happen then I would encourage you to either seek your own or else seek other forms of outside knowledge to help you deal with the situation. Perhaps seeing you seek outside input, in a non confrontational manner might encourage her to want to open up. I think it's going to come down to communication at some point; I think the only thing you can do in the meantime is be supportive and wait. Best of luck.