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Depression kills libido in pretty much most people. Post-partum also brings with it the hormonal changes that occur after pregnancy... the body is adjusting back to "normal"- but not completely, because it's still in "make milk for baby" mode. It sounds like she really has 2 or 3 different issues right now that contribute to lack of sex drive. Post-partum, general hormone changes causing unrest in her body and mind, and worry about the child's medical condition. She's got a full plate, from what you're saying.
As others have recommended, get some couples' counseling. Go with your wife to the OB/GYN next time, and bring it up with the doctor. They will almost definitely have someone to recommend. The solidarity will also help your wife, because she will most likely feel better that you're showing active concern and interest in her well-being (physical and mental), and that you're there to help her through it. Post-partum is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about, and there are certainly options for help out there.
You may have said, "I want to help" 7 times already, but sometimes it takes 8 times for it to register. Or 10... or 15. The point is. unless you get yelled at for offering, you almost can't verbalise your support too much. We know you're concerned... make sure SHE knows, too. Oh, and leave sex out of the equation. It will be the last thing to straighten out. Do yourself a favor and don't even mention it unless you have to. Say the word sex, and the whole thing will seem like it's about sex to her, even though it's a small component (i'm not generalizing females, i'm going by what he's said about her thus far).
Good luck, man.
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